Coping with Grief and loss

Grief and loss I have a dear friend that has suffered more grief and loss then should be allowed by the laws of nature. He's lost three people dear to him back to back to back and hasn't had the chance to grieve the first loss properly. He's not been able to experience the five stages of grief in order to move on with his life. The five stages are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance but there should be a sixth stage isolation, because the person grieving such a loss tends to isolate themselves. People tend to grieve in there own ways and as loved ones all we can do is be there to support and pick up any pieces. I find that the best way to grieve is to celebrate that persons life once I've made it through the five stages and remember them for the person that they were in life not in death. This takes a while to achieve if ever. My friend is a remarkable man he's always the person that people come running to with their problems. William has always been a pillar of strength, a confidant, brilliant father to his children and wonderful husband to his wife. Will is the kind of person you'd be honored to have as a friend and I am. I'm also wondering how someone so special to this world could be allowed to suffer so much loss. It doesn't seem right when you live you're life doing right by others even at the expense of your own needs;hopefully things for Will will change for the better very soon and he'll be back to his once happy self. I love you William!

When life knocks you on your ass get up and knock back!

There are days when you know before setting one foot out of bed the day would be better spent in bed. God knows I've had plenty of those lately but you cannot lie curled up on the floor in the fetal position in a pile of your own filth. Look how well that worked for Howard Hughes...anyhoo, I digress..life's hard and its full of blind-siding knocks all we can do is learn from them and move on. That sounds simple especially when lifes so much more complicated, let me know how you deal with the hard knocks of life...Andie

Off we go...

Ok, after some technical difficulties I'm ready to go! I'd like to introduce myself.

My name's Andie, and I'm a mother of two from Washington DC.

Life is bittersweet but we can help

Welcome, we at help4uishere are a new blog but we hope to be a helpful one. We are three mothers who combined have over a hundred years worth of experiences based on our ages and the events that happend in our lives to shape who we are at this point in time. The three of us have learned from the hard knocks of life, we have been knocked down, knees bloodied, self-esteem shattered but we have always found a way to get back up and begin again with a better out look because of the lessons learned. Though we may not be psychologists or social workers, we do have the experience of life and all that it entails. We are here to offer you insights into helping you with whatever may be troubling you. Life is bittersweet and we at help4uishere are here to advise you on both and the gray areas in between, if you yourself don't require any advice please pass along our blog to people that you know who do...Thank you for your time, Andie, Wendy and Gemma